What is PMI? The Gen Z dating trend that may be ruining your relationship

Read the full article on NY Post by Mia Erickson here.

A new toxic trend, PMI, is set to take over the world of dating next year. Here’s how to spot it and stop it in its tracks before it ruins your next fling. 

The early days of a new fling are filled with almost every emotional peak and trough in the book. From the longwinded anticipation of each text to the silent panic that sets in when you realize you’re sitting across the table from a cat person (instant dealbreaker), the dating scene can be one whirlwind of an emotional rollercoaster.

While there are plenty of valid reasons why a fresh romance won’t survive the harsh dating landscape, self-sabotage (whether intentional or not) has got to be one of the most unfortunate. Now, there’s a new trendy iteration of dating drama casting a shadow on new couples everywhere. Premature intimacy, or PMI, speaks to the urge to share too much too soon with a new partner, often leaving people feeling exposed or regretful.

Certified sex and relationship practitioner, Georgia Grace, shares with Body+Soul why healthy boundaries and a strong line of communication are so important to nurture at the start of any relationship, and why it’s crucial to look out for signs of PMI.

What exactly is PMI?

While yet another trending abbreviation might have you cursing the ever-changing Gen Z language, this one is especially important. A quick scan of the English language will tell you the word ‘premature’ is scarcely used to describe anything good, with its current dating association only reinforcing the stereotype. 

PMI is the romance equivalent of TMI (too much information), incorporating whispers of love bombing and trauma dumping. In essence, the term refers to the oversharing of mind, body and soul. Imagine you’re sitting across from your date at dinner, swapping facts about yourselves and critiquing the restaurant’s playlist. Suddenly, before you’ve even had time to digest the entrees, your casual first date begins talking about your detailed future plans or reaches over to plant a kiss on your lips. Pretty jarring image right? 

While intimacy is no doubt an important building block for any blossoming relationship, overstepping too early on is a surefire way to give someone the ‘ick’. PMI can manifest in more ways than simply oversharing your thoughts on a date, such as overt displays of physical affection and deep dives into your personal information.

Read the full article on NY Post by Mia Erickson here.

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